
An app named after breakfast decided that a coffee and a bagel ought to meet. Carlie was the coffee. David was the bagel. Nobody consulted either of us about the casting, and nobody has objected since.
Friday, May 14, 2027
Mt. Woodson Castle, Ramona, California
Ceremony at half past eleven, lunch on the grounds,
farewells by half past four. Then the bar reopens at the hotel.
You’re in. Here is the whole day,
in the order it happens.
One Friday, start to finish: the castle from eleven, and the hotel bar from half past six. Everything below runs to the clock on the left.

A May noon under full sun: light fabrics, and the paths are stone and the lawn is real, so leave the thinnest heels at home.
The ceremony is outdoors in full sun, with sun umbrellas on hand. The castle stays open the whole day, so there is a seat indoors whenever anyone wants one.
16302 N Woodson Drive, Ramona. About forty-five minutes northeast of San Diego, parking on the grounds. Open in Maps
Parking is on the grounds.
Outdoors, in the sun. Sun umbrellas will be on hand, and the castle stays open behind you.
Find your seat.
On the grounds.
Rancho Bernardo Inn. The bar is open and there is something to eat.
Nine moments, in order, one of them on film. Scroll sideways.

An app named after breakfast decided that a coffee and a bagel ought to meet. Carlie was the coffee. David was the bagel. Nobody consulted either of us about the casting, and nobody has objected since.

David was in Las Vegas. The date was the next day in Huntington Beach. A reasonable man would have sent a text and moved it a week. David got in the car at midnight and drove through the dark instead, which in hindsight was the entire personality arriving early.

Carlie arrived early and could not make herself go in. So she took up a position in the Urban Outfitters across the street and watched the restaurant door through the window, heart going far too fast, pretending to be extremely interested in a candle.

From somewhere behind the denim she called her brother Brody and asked him what she was supposed to do. Brody’s advice has never been disclosed. It has never been repeated. Whatever it was, she put the candle down and crossed the street.

Whatever she saw through that window was enough. Dinner ran long, then longer, and then we went out for a drink afterward, which is the internationally recognized signal that a first date has gone well. Neither of us was looking for a reason to leave.

Second date, second beach. Newport this time. Carlie had decided a bikini was not yet appropriate, and so arrived at the sand in a complete outfit, fully assembled, entirely unbothered. We played cards until the sun went down and the sand went cold, and still neither of us suggested going home.

Before Carlie flew to Japan, David took her for real sushi and explained, very seriously, that Japan does not do rolls. Then the chef killed a prawn in front of her. She ate it. She ate every single thing on that counter. He has been telling people ever since, and he will tell you at the wedding.

On the third date David suggested, very reasonably, that they be exclusive and see how things go. He said it the way a man proposes a trial period. Carlie agreed to the trial. The trial was never formally concluded. Nobody filed a review, nobody asked for an extension, and the paperwork is now in your hands.

Then one afternoon a drone went up, a knee went down, and Carlie said yes. All of it is on film, which means you will be watching it at the wedding whether you would like to or not.
Three hotels within a mile of each other, all about the same drive from the castle. Book directly with whichever you like. The party is at the first one.

Where the after-party is, so the bar is downstairs. 17550 Bernardo Oaks Drive.
Book at the Inn
About a fifteen minute walk from the party. 17240 Bernardo Center Drive.
Book at Hilton
About a mile from the party. Worth a ride back rather than a walk. 11611 Bernardo Plaza Court.
Book at Courtyard
6:30 to 9:30 PM Rancho Bernardo Inn, 17550 Bernardo Oaks Drive
We are not sending you home at half past four. At six thirty we will be at the Rancho Bernardo Inn with the bar open and something to eat, until half past nine or until they ask us to leave. Come by whenever you are ready.
A sister beside the bride, a brother beside the groom, right where they have always been.



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